ever had a fight or a conflict with someone where you feel you're right and the other person was wrong? you keep asking yourself 'why can't this person get my point?'.
if you ask me, i've been in that situation many times already. it's maddening to know if someone doesn't get what you're trying to point out. makes you think how dumb of the that person to not know or not get.
all of us want to be right, right? but the thing there is, who are we to judge who's right and who's wrong?
a dramatic and painful situation made me realize something. that maybe, it's not them, it's us.
i read a line somewhere that says, "if you don't look forward to your mondays, change your work. if your weekends are boring you, change your friends." but i say "how about you change your self?" boils down to one word. attitude.
now going back to the question, 'why can't this person get my point?' before asking that, maybe we need to ask first, 'am i making sense?', 'did i make it clear enough for the other person to understand?'. once we have covered what we can answer, then and only then we can go find the answer from another person.
people doesn't stray for no good reason. it might be that we are the ones pushing them away, or perhaps we are trying to make them the monster that they're not.
this one's very similar to jfk's famous quote but this one's in my own words though.
"stop asking what other people can offer you. you should ask yourself what you can offer to other people. if they can't make you laugh, then maybe you can make them."
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